'Detaching' and being with a loved one

"I have a question that has been troubling me the past couple of days... How does one detach from someone when one knows that they are already there, the love is already incredibly strong, and we have been trying to get together so much yet obstacles continue to get in the way?

I feel like detaching will help with the unification, but it just seems so difficult and even after many prayers and meditation, it still seems very difficult to detach from one another in order to complete the attraction and let our physical beings connect rather than just our mind and spirit...

Any insight/advice is greatly appreciated!
Thank you

REPLY:

The way to 'detach' is also through 'allowing' and letting it happen, and focusing on the GOOD FEELINGS, but not the heavy ones and not the ones that are trying to figure it out and how it will happen and so on from your physical perspective. Focus on the enjoyment and the appreciation and PRESENCE of WHAT YOU HAVE NOW than on the absence [of what you would like]

Don't look at what is around you to feel good, use your imagination if you have to to think of how you would like things to be. Don't think about what is or isn't here yet. Think the wonderful thoughts you do in the moment because in that moment they give you the pleasure, love, joy etc they do.

And as you feel better about things you will be allowing it in and letting it happen and thus will be less attached (which is what I'm presuming is the intention of you wanting to be detaching)

So for example you can appreciate the wonderful things in this relationship such as:
-the fact that you and your partner have found each other
-that your love is incredibly strong
-the aspects of each other that you love so much

Let go of the [issue of the] unification and the 'obstacles' (because what you focus on expands), soothe your vibration by saying things such as:
-I love my partner so much, and we have a love so strong...
-I realise that things maybe aren't perfect right now but I know they are on the way to being good...
-I know the universe can orchestrate anything and I know that it will orchestrate this in my lining up to it (through my allowing, via my good feelings as mentioned above)...
-I will line up to it by remembering the positive aspects in that person and in our relationship and our love and in the Universal orchestration...
-I'll remind myself that the universe can orchestrate anything - but I have to let it in and the universe will match my vibration about it...
-As I see my partner and I together the universe will match that...
-I realise that I may not see things immediately but what is important is how I feel about it and that will be bringing it to me...

Comments

[Diana]

Another way to look at this is : we are energy beings, and as energy we are unified as one energy body. "It may appear that we are separate, but from another perspective, we are connected as one." Then anchor that reality by feeling emotionally and physically as deeply as you can, the way it feels to be with the one you love. The more you can make this a reality in this experience, Now, the more you can "embody" it, Now, the more quickly it will appear - Now!

[Hemal Radia]

Thanks for that Diana, I agree!
Yep, the more you make this a reality in your experience, the more (and more quickly) you allow it to come into your physical experience

[lygia]

Yes we need to detach so as not to stifle you significant other in the relationship...It doesn't mean you don't care. Sometimes we get so wrapped up with someone we forget we have a separate lives and careers and we need our space...When we can learn to detach ourselves and be in a relationship and yet look at it from the outside the other person if he/ she has a real connection will reciprocate...if the other person isn't really interested the relationship isn't working anyway but the decision to detach will save you from hurt ...that you are giving so much and getting less or nothing...