MANIFESTING & LAW OF ATTRACTION

Allowing Miracles by Living From Your ‘Purpose’

THE KEY IS HOW YOU FEEL

What you will find is one's purpose is joy, love, enjoyment, appreciation, fun etc - whatever words one wants to use here, the key is the essence, the feeling, the vibration etc - and the FORM (the 'how') of it can be whatever, it can be being great at a sport, business, the arts, internet marketing or whatever it may be. The form can be a range of things and it can vary throughout your life and as you choose, the common denominator is HOW IT FEELS. That is when you know you are connected to your true purpose.

When you are in a relationship and it 'feels right' or a job or work that 'feels right' or something else that 'feels right' then you are on the path of your purpose, and that can be whatever you want it to be, so long as you have a clear vibration about it - i.e. you do not contradict it, your indication is through your feelings.

The terms 'Purpose' and 'Mission' etc have been banded around for many years, what you will find is that when someone feels something is their purpose...it FEELS a certain way, that is the key. The form - the details, the 'how' - of the purpose can change, just as you are ever growing and ever changing, and as the Universe is abundant and has choice and freewill, you can make anything your purpose, it feeling good is the indication of your alignment to it.  The better it feels the more in song you are with it.

When you are in alignment – and you can call it being on the path of your purpose, or whatever terminology you'd like to use – the Universe orchestrates itself and will provide the resources you need to have and be what you need to do. The Universe does not mind what you do, but when you are in alignment with yourself you will expand powerfully and see physical manifestations and the Universe will be your best friend in making sure the road ahead is fine to take you to where you want to go, and if not the Universe will give you signs to take detours that can get you there faster.

 

IT'S ABOUT THE JOY AND THE PROCESS

The implication of the word 'purpose' suggests it has to be an end result, that's not necessarily the case in how we are talking about it although it is part of the process, part of the mix.  When someone paints a beautiful painting the fun is in the painting of it, when someone is with the love of their life the magic is in the moment. When someone has a child the joy is in the process of it than intending the child to live to a 100 (end result), your joy is in the process of being with your child.

When you have goals, whilst the goal is an end result, your real purpose is your joy and process in creating it, including the contrast and the challenges you experience and how you expand and grow - including vibrationally - as a result. So it's not just about the end result and how quick you get there and in what style.

Everything you go through, whatever detours or dead-ends you take and however challenging it may be, or even easy as it may be, is 'perfect' and part of the journey, it is all adding to your development and there is nothing that you do that is 'wasted', it is all adding to your vibration in attracting what you want. Even when you are frustrated and disappointed in the short term, in those moments your desire for what you want is amongst its strongest, you are hungriest in that moment and your vibration has expanded, and when you get back on the road in terms of your alignment and feeling better and better you improve your alignment and harmony with the Universe and from a more powerful place vibrationally.

 

 

YOU WILL LITERALLY SEE MIRACLES AROUND YOU

So know that whatever you do is fine, it's part of the journey, and as you head towards better and better feeling thoughts, experiences and moments, you are lining up to the magic within yourself and the Universe around you. As you align to that harmony, to that magic, you will literally see miracles happen around you. All the miracles you have ever heard of have all been in this category, there is no difference. And you have access to it a step at a time from wherever you are, right now.

Just start with something that feels a bit inspired, and then do something else from there, and something else from there, and so on. And within a few steps – whilst it may seem 'only' a few steps – vibrationally you are already exponentially so far away from where you started, and the momentum is powerfully towards where you want to go.  Each progressive step is bigger and more powerful as each one builds on the vibrational platforms created by the previous steps.

Realise that you may think there are logical steps to what you want and 'logically' it may seem far away, but when you take the vibrational steps as mentioned here you are taking EXPONENTIALLY LARGE STEPS. You may have thought 'How will I achieve this?' but when you line up to what feels good and to 'You' – the spiritual part of you by what feels good – you are in synch with the Universe and you see the synchronicities and 'coincidences'.

You could for example be in a lift with someone who is looking for something that you are offering and it just 'happens' to be a perfect fit for both of you.  You see the coincidences and the synchronicities happen, and in your excitement and 'allowing' you are letting in more and more of them and you are letting in more of your flow.

When you are in tune with your 'purpose' all sorts of things will open up for you. The Universe is always your friend, though now you are in tune with it and working side by side and all sorts of synchronicities and apparent 'chance happenings' and ideas and inspirations will naturally come through, AND THIS IS THE NATURAL FLOW. Also it won't feel like 'work' because it's 'fun'.

Sometimes people can have a belief of "Can I really do that, as it 'feels like too much fun'", allow yourself to follow what feels good, that is the sign from the Universe, even if it doesn't immediately make rational sense, but it IS getting you in tune with You and everything else.

When you tune into your love and fun and enjoyment and so on you are in tune with what you came here to do

 

 

Hemal working with *YOU*

For quite some time now as I have interacted with people, whether online or on phone or in person, I have been hearing the results people have been getting from our interactions.  This has been happening time and time and time again.

In my background in the mid 90s when I did my NLP I coached and trained and developed many of my own Manifesting & Law of Attraction processes over the years and had results with others as well in my own life.  What has been happening more recently is that people have also been experiencing answers from me intuitively and it was very much resonated with what they were looking for and given them their answers.

I wanted to open this option up for others, for you to work one-on-one with me on your goals and challenges.  I have a monthly package with limited slots remaining for us to interact via email and phone interaction on YOUR goals, contact me for more information.

Contact me at hemal@manifestingandlawofattraction.com about what you would like to work with and for more information.
I am letting people get in touch and ‘book their place’ as there will only be a number of people I can work with one-to-one on a monthly basis

I love your work, Hemal.  Between you and Abraham Hicks....I feel so supported in this wild journey!  Blessings from Colorado!

Tamara Kerner, Colorado, USA

I know I always say "Thank you, Hemal" but I mean it.
I am more aware of my alignment, my own vibration, focus on feeling good, Thank you.
Your teaching is always interesting and I feel good reading your articles and listening to your Teleclasses, Thank you.
Thank you so much and I am very happy that I can connect with you.

Rebecca Seal, London, UK

I participated in one of your Teleseminars in August and it was amazing how the experience not only stayed with me throughout the day, but as positive things occurred, they kept growing and compounding.  Everything seemed to flow so easily - the more people I encountered, the more I was able to give to them and receive back their energy.  By that evening, I was feeling so "buoyant" that when I was suddenly asked to speak in front of an audience without warning - instead of panicking, words just flowed easily.  And - at the end of the day: I won 3 raffle prizes that night!

So Hemal, don't feel pressured - I won't be expecting that kind of result from every Teleseminar you do. :-) But I know I will come away with something very special.
To folks considering working with Hemal, I highly recommend you take advantage of this opportunity to get to know Hemal and hear what he has to share with all of us.

You can really get to know him; he is down-to-earth, authentic, and really has something of value to offer.

Dora Crow, California, USA

Your answer is exactly what I wanted to hear and I immediately feel more aligned with my goal and I'm certain I am going to receive it within the next few weeks.
Thank you so much!  In all honesty this is fantastic!
The depth of information you give is very good.
Thanks very much Hemal

Sanjay Patel, West Midlands, UK

I've been aware of Law of Attraction for some time now, with most things I can deliberately put myself in the best feeling place, but other times I have needed some clearer direction.

Hemal's website and useful advice have been incredibly helpful. His experiences of using the Law of Attraction and his wisdom and compassion makes him an extremely understanding and non-judgmental person. It is often useful to have an objective point of view, and someone who might be able to say that something is not quite in alignment. Although, I fully understand the Law of Attraction, his post on health which was a response to a question of mine, goes into great detail about finding that great feeling and getting into alignment with your body.  I knew I had to find the feeling that I would feel when I reached the finished and achieved my goal, but all the other extra tips and advice made that bit of difference.

It is great to have someone who asks: How did you attract this into your life?  What beliefs, thoughts, restrictions, are in place? It is also wonderful to have someone who can put out a specific plan for helping you achieve your goals, whatever they are.

Tanya Moore, Newcastle, UK

After just one coaching session with Hemal Radia and Kim in the Teleseminar they held, I began to observe the limiting beliefs which were keeping me separate from that which I desired. From this new awareness and observation I am able to powerfully shift my perspective in a way that has enabled me to actually become and therefore attract what I truly desired.
I really enjoyed listening to the teleseminar and the two teleclasses that have taken place since then. I felt that there were certain things in what was discussed that related to me.
There are two more teleclasses that are yet to come and for which I am eager to listen to.
 I would recommend everyone interested in this subject to join Hemal’s Teleclasses, I am sure it would be of great help to them.

Bhavini Raicha, UK
(she sent this at the time when the teleclasses were running live)

”…..since we met 10 years ago you have been an inspiration and an influence to me on how to on how to walk the talk. On a continuing basis have I seen how it is possible to take action not just sitting and feeling nice vibrations. I look forward to the next step on our journey….”
All love, Elizabeth, Denmark

I have had coaching on many levels with Hemal. Of late I have experienced his coaching with spirit. It’s incredible. Hemal’s insight into Law of Attraction is wonderful as it is, but coaching with spirit brings it to a whole nother level. I  asked him about my relationship with another person and the extra insight was awesome. It helped me to see things that I hadn’t seen.

Kate Strong, New Zealand

"God's delays are not God's denials"

This was a comment from Meg to one of my posts on "Don't focus on the Who or the How, only on the What", I thought it was a beautiful story and so titled it "God's delays are not God's denials" and highlighted it in a post...

"I think there is one important thing about this -- we inherently 'know' if we are wanting someone that we simply can't have for whatever reason (such as Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie!). But also, just because someone specific we desire a chance with doesn't manifest immediately or even quickly, doesn't mean that it won't be.

For example, my husband and I dated for a brief time many years ago, and through tragic circumstances, were parted. Neither one of us in all those years stopped hoping and desiring the other, but things had to work out for the best timing for each of us. I was faithful to my heart and never dated anyone else, and didn't stress it.  I was content and fulfilled in my life as a single woman.

My husband was in a very bad and controlling marriage, and though he'd had many signs he should take action to leave, it took him a LONG TIME (6 years) to finally make the move. As soon as he did, all the things he'd wanted for all those years, started to arrive -- including ME! We ran into each other several times out and about.
When we want something that can't be -- be it Brad Pitt :) or Angelina Jolie, we will get re-directed to where our true desire lies.

Just my thoughts, and my experiences! Great blog."  -Meg

Accelerating your Manifesting & Law of Attraction skills!

Many of you have been asking about them and the audios on Manifesting & Law of Attraction are now available!

These are from the teleclasses in the summer which if you didn't attend them live then you can download them now

There is a free audio in which I answer questions from around the world on the topic and there are 4 audios on Accelerating Your Manifesting & Law of Attraction Skills which are over 6 HOURS in duration in total and include handouts for each audio, for more information click on the following links:

- Free Audio

- Accelerating Your Manifesting & Law of Attraction Skills Audios

Quick thoughts on Meditation & Law of Attraction

Here is a question that someone asked on the Universal Law of Attraction group on Facebook,

 

"Has anyone ever used meditation with the Law of Attraction?  Someone said she used meditation with Law of Attraction to manifest her desires. I was wondering has anyone incorporated meditation with the Law of Attraction?"

 

What meditation does is it quietens the mind and this serves various purposes,

IT'S ABOUT LETTING IT IN

Firstly as you quieten your mind and think less thoughts in general (less 'noise') you are likely to have less resistant thoughts and so you will be 'allowing' what you want better. You are always connected to the Universe/Source/God (choose whichever word resonates for you) and you are only not letting it in through your day-to-day resistant thoughts ('resistant' meaning when you think or feel of something that you don't want), so when you quieten those you are letting in the universal well-being, the natural flow, and so you are naturally in alignment with all that you want (and all that you are from a spiritual perspective).

Also when you have a quieter mind you can put more of your attention on what you DO want and focus more on that, and of course you are getting vibrational alignment with what you want that way.

NOT ABOUT 'WORKING HARDER' OR 'TRYING HARDER' NECESSARILY

Getting what you want is not necessarily about 'working harder' or 'trying harder' - which can sometimes imply not being aligned as you are needing to expend 'effort', which is different to free flowing energy and desire and enthusiasm and love for what you want and you taking action through your inspiration - it is about tuning in and letting it in. 

It is not at all about having any less desire, but about how you channel your desire and do it with aligned thoughts and action than misaligned.  You will find that when you are aligned and 'letting it in' things will come to you far more easily than having to 'strive' and 'chase' for things.

Working harder and trying harder work fine from an action or physical point of view but the letting it in and allowing is from a spiritual perspective where you have greater leverage by having all of the resources of the Universe's or God's or Source's available to you, if you can imagine every cell in the Universe orchestrating with you towards what you want and it being in tune with your harmony and vibration, that is available to YOU!

 

As a Single Parent How do I Handle my Ex?

Hi Hemal,

I enjoy reading your blog, it is well laid out and easy to follow, something which I notice is often lacking on topics of a spiritual nature elsewhere. Often there are too many bells and whistles and the messages are lost amongst it all but yours is clear to read!

I teach people how to manage stress and anxiety, and one day I may consider teaching the LoA depending on how open my clients are.

My problem is, I am absolutely useless at applying the LoA in my own life despite having seen the effects years ago before I even knew there was a name for it. I have recently become a single parent and feel nervous every time I see my ex as he is so unreasonable about contact with the children. I had been going along with his demands for contact and hoping that being generous would lead him to being the same but it isn't, so how do I get tougher without inviting more negativity for myself?

Thanks!
Abigail

Hi Abigail,

Being 'tougher' implies you have something to 'be tough against', which implies on some level you are thinking of something you do not want, and of course if you have something in your vibration of what you don't want you are attracting more of the same. Ask yourself what you DO want instead, how you'd like things to be, practice those thoughts and vibration.

Focus on what you DO appreciate, that you have a wonderful child, that you are getting to spend time with him or her, that although the dynamics have changed recently you are making the most of what you have and are enjoying and appreciating things.

And despite what your ex does or doesn't do, practice your vibration towards what feels good to you rather than as a response to how he behaves, otherwise you may find yourself up and down, practice taking your attention off that and putting it onto your own alignment, in that being what feels good to you (as that is your 'guidance', intuition, whatever you want to call it), or at least feels 'better' to you, as it is all relative

When you get into your own alignment others around you will change, or you will see those aspects in them that match your vibration, OR, when they behave those ways they used to you won't see it or be around because vibrationally you won't be a match and are instead lined up for what you do want. All in all it means the same thing, when you have lined up your vibration and have alignment [to what feels good to you - that is your 'purpose'], you will experience more of that

Hi Hemal

Thanks for replying. I guess it takes a big leap to move away saying 'I don't want...' to 'What I want is...'. So is it better to say 'I want for our boys not to have to make a very long car trip' rather than 'I don't want the kids making a long car trip'?  How else can I specifically spell it out for my ex that I don't want the kids being made to do that?  If I don't spell things out, he will claim he didn't realise my point.

Thanks!
Abi

Hi Abi,

When you say 'I don't want them to make a long car trip' or 'I want them to not have to make a very long car trip', they are both the same thing in that the focus is still on not making a long car trip, i.e. on what you don't want (you can't process a 'negative'; don't think of a blue elephant in a purple tree - you can't 'not' think about it, you have to think about something to not think about it, hence don't put your attention towards what you don't want), put your attention on what you DO want instead, so I'm presuming what the most important things are is that the boys are well, happy and so on, put your attention on that, whatever your (positive) intention is.  Practice your vibration around that.  If they are fine and happy making long trips or doing other things then that is still a match to what you want, let go of the form, let go of judging the form of how your positive intention is achieved.

So ask yourself why you want what you want to get your positive intention, i.e. them not having long trips for example is so you want them to be well etc, put your attention on that than on 'how' it happens.  You are presuming what they will go through with long car journeys, and that may be well-founded based on what has happened in the past, but soften your perspective on it, soften your beliefs and thoughts around it, focus on what you do want than on what has happened in the past, create the present and future based on what you would like it to be than your experiences in the past.  When you are looking to avoid the past happening that is where your vibration is, instead start practicing how you would like things to be.  What you create in your future is just a matter of which vibration you practice and all possibilities are open to you

WHAT ARE YOU PRACTICING

Bit by bit also take your attention away from the frustration of the interactions (with the ex) and put it on what you are wanting, which is how you want the boys to be. Because if your attention is on frustration, you will attract a match to that either in that context or elsewhere, put your attention on the wellbeing of the boys, and the key thing is how it makes YOU feel, put yourself in that place, and let the form and the happenings take care of themselves.  Right now you probably have a list of the things you dislike about your ex and how you don't want things to be, but do you have a list of how you want things to be?  Which vibration are you practicing stronger?  Which is your dominant vibration?

And what I am talking about is more about your own focus and vibration than what you say to the ex, if you are vibrationally in the right place then the right things will take care of themselves, if needed you will say the right things or you may even find that you don't need to say anything as they are taken care of

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When you let go of the 'need' for it, you will get what you want

“Hi Hemal,

Nina put me onto your blog and posts, and of course you know they are simply wonderful. Thank you for contributing so much of your helpful knowledge to the rest of us out here living this crazy physical experience.

I was wondering if you knew, or have blogged about anything having to do with baldness. With the knowledge I have now, I can see that I practiced the "I'm going bald and that's it, my dad is bald, etc." for years, and now I am trying to tell a new story and appreciate a full, healthy head of hair. I want all my other balding friends to look at me and say "How the HELL did you do that?  No rogaine?  No transplants?  How the hell is it possible?" Any help you could offer would be very appreciated.

Funny enough, I've searched the web for everything and found a way through the LOA to assist in a positive solution...but baldness is the ONE subject that seems very tricky - no one has a clear cut answer. Or one that I've been able to find, anyway...

All my best”

CREATING PHYSICAL BODILY CHANGE IS THE SAME AS ANY OTHER CHANGE

The process for people to create change in their physical bodies is the same as the process for the changes they try to create elsewhere in their lives; whether it be attracting more money or attracting a lover, etc.  They often have a situation which is of what they don’t want and this creates the contrast - that feeling of wanting something that isn’t here right now.  And the desire of what they want emanates from that.

So it’s softening the perspective on where you are at that moment, this softens the resistance and contrast and lets in the good stuff (which feels good - that is your indication) - you can call it the Universe, Universal energy, God force, spirit, non-physical, whatever you want to call it.  You are allowing it in.  We’ll talk more about it regarding this case later.

 

When someone is saying “Where is my lover?  Where is my lover?  Why has he/she not entered my life yet?”  Implicit in that asking is doubt and focus on the lack of that person not being in their life right now, and that attracts more of the same.

It’s the same as someone saying “Where’s my money?  Where’s my money?”  Again, it is focusing on the absence of something and it attracts more of the same.  Some people would call it ‘root looking’ or ‘pulse checking’.  If when you plant something you are regularly digging it up to check for root growth it is not going to grow so well

The issue you mention here has the same solution as with other issues, and the irony is this: 

As you soften your perspective on the present situation, it won’t be an issue to you any more, but the irony in that is you will get what you want anyway.

It’s like a couple wanting to get ‘pregnant’, they try and try and try for a baby and after a while they decide to adopt.  And when they adopt, all their resistance to ‘not having a child’ goes....and they get pregnant.  When someone ‘gives up’ or ‘surrenders’ they let go of the resistance and thus allow what they want.  The key thing is not necessarily the surrendering but the letting go of the resistance.

ATTRACTION IS VIBRATIONAL

Before we have some statements to soften this and talk about your body’s ability to grow, something else as a consideration when people are working on something on a ‘cosmetic’ level....

People are conscious of how they look and how they come across to others especially to the opposite sex.

The thing to realise is that attraction is vibrational.  Before anyone sees you (or hears you or touches you) they have already picked you up (pardon the pun) vibrationally, their attraction and recognition of you is vibrational - the fact they are even in your vicinity is because you are a vibrational match.

The question to ask yourself, is what tone (vibrationally) are you setting, is it one of:
- I don’t like the way I look, I am uncomfortable about one thing or another
- There is something not right about me
- I won’t be liked

Or:
- I know that despite how I might look or sound, I like (even love) me
- I don’t need to be or do anything, there are people that will love me for me, and it is ok if I’m not ok for others (a vibrational match), it wouldn’t have worked anyway – I like who I am and if they’re looking for someone that doesn’t then I’m not a vibrational match
- I like/love me

The whole Universe works on a vibrational level far before anything else, before social conditioning, man-made laws or anything else - which are all composed of 'vibration' and pure potential anyway, they are all made up of the building blocks of the Universe.  With you being in alignment and feeling good about who you are, you are attracting people that match that, or attracting that aspect from those already around you.  You can only attract that which is a vibrational match to you.

Socially you may have thought there were certain opinions about baldness in terms of attraction – as may be the case with any situation, but do realise that through your softening of your own perspective on it, those elements of society will not interest you and those that do will be the ones that match your warm fuzzy feeling about yourself. The aspects of the Universe (and that includes society!) you draw to yourself will be the ones that are a match to your frequency, your vibration.  If you have a certain opinion or self image about yourself you will attract those that are a match to it.

YOUR BODY’S ABILITY TO GROW

Now you may have read the article on Getting Into Alignment with your Body (particularly the section in it titled "Your Body Literally Responds to your Vibration") which touched on the body’s ability to regenerate and grow.  Your body has the ability to grow hair as well as make other physiological changes.  Everything is malleable by your offering a pure thought and holding your vibration to it, thus attracting more of the same and the momentum building and manifesting on a physical level.

Your body responds when you come from a place of pure (i.e. not contradicted or 'mixed') thought, i.e. not from a place of lack or trying to 'fix' something.  Law of Attraction will give you more of the same, whatever you focus on it will give you more of the same.

Soothing yourself about a situation will let you soften the thoughts that don’t support what you want, the thoughts that are on what you don’t want, so you could say:

- I know I have this and whilst I haven’t enjoyed it, I’m going to take my attention off it and onto how I feel about myself
- I’m not going to let something change how I feel about myself.  My feelings about me are unconditional regardless of the outside.  And what do you know, maybe the outside will change too
- I also know that as I change how I feel about myself, other physiological changes may take place anyway
- I know the body has the ability to create the changes I want, I am here and reading this and have attracted a match in my search for a solution
- I will take my attention off the situation and ‘stop counting’ and instead will start to appreciate the good things in my life, including my body and what I appreciate about it

APPRECIATING YOURSELF

What would be good to do at that point would be to write a list of the things you DO appreciate about yourself and your body and to practice this.  You could make it a list of 10 things, 20, 50, whatever number you like, and regularly (such as every day) write a new one.  Not necessarily because you are trying to ‘create’ something, but because you enjoy how it feels and how you feel.  Manifestation is about how you feel during the process, the manifestations themselves are natural consequences of you feeling good.  The feelings are indicators of you letting in 'all the good stuff'.

Your vibration will raise and if you feel inspired to remember or think or imagine (whichever feels best) how more and more hair (or whatever the 'condition' was) would look on you you can do so, do what feels good and enjoyable, and do it because of that.  The subject will feel different as a result of your raised vibration, you will not be trying to 'solve a problem' but envisioning and creating something because (at that raised vibration) it feels good.  If it feels heavy then return to softening and resume from there.

Love is you being You

Love is about following the heart. As with most things, all the answers one needs are communicated through the emotions.

Love is not meant to be about obligation or control - they are based on insecurity and fear, you will know how they feel and they feel different from 'true love' - it is about expression and being free flowing, it is about being 'You' and unconditional love.  It is not expecting the other person to be something, it is accepting them for who they are and loving them, and you being You in the same process.  And ironically, when you really do this you have all the love in the world here. 

When you are in this place of love the Universe beats a path  to your door to make it all happen.  The events and synchronicities and happenings all take care of themselves, they can't not, from a vibrational perspective when in love you are 'singing' and attracting all that is a match.  Literally the Universe creates a path for you, with the angels with harps and rainbows and more. 

Perception is projection.  You attract matches.  If you want to attract your soulmate (or have your soulmate be the person you're with), BE from that place and see what happens.  You can attract a person with those qualities or draw those qualities from the person you're with, it's by appreciating who they are than who they're not

Softening your Vibration about a Decision Made

Here is an interaction from the comments of the "Everything you Experience is for you to Have What you Want" post.  It was a question Pat asked and I thought others would value it so I've pasted it here so it can be more visibly seen.  I've edited it a bit and added some additional comments

"Around January 2007 my husband and I made a decision that affected me deeply (moving to another country), and which I now regret. I cannot reverse it now, and I feel guilty, remorseful, and depressed. I keep wishing I could turn the clock back, which of course won't happen. I'd love to believe everything will be ok, and attract the right things, but I just cannot. Any words of wisdom?"

Hi Pat,

You are in a situation that does not feel nice and you are looking to see what possibilities there are.

Start with the situation at hand, look at the things that feel uncomfortable and look to 'soften' them. So you might say you are not enjoying the country and find aspects that aren't so bad about them, rephrase or reframe things such that they feel 'softer' rather than the harsh way they've been perceived as previously.  It is never about a situation but your perspective on it, and that determines your vibration about it and thus your physical experience. 

As you soften how you see something the resistance will decrease and you will attract better feelings thoughts and feel better too.  Feeling better is a sign of alignment towards who you really are, from a spiritual point of view, it's alignment towards everything that you want

So as you soften your vibration you will attract other thoughts in line with that and so on. As you do that you will find soon enough your reality will change, and at the very least how you see your reality will have changed, in gentle subtle shifts. But it starts with gently softening how things have been

You can say to yourself:
- I don't enjoy how things have been, but things have happened and I can try to make the most of them
- I feel guilt and am depressed about it, and I can start to gently look for things I might appreciate because I know that will improve how I feel and is on the way to things changing, whether it be that my physical reality changes or that how I see my physical reality will change
- I can look for things that have come about through all of this which may be of benefit to me, even if it's being clear on what I don't want.  I know there are things I have not enjoyed, in fact detested, but I am also clearer on what I DO want
- What I DO want is....

And work with building those thoughts, practice them, imagine them, spend time on them. Just imagine if things could be a certain way, how would they be?  Don't think you are trying to create something, just focus on these better feeling thoughts and practice them.  Doing this will raise your vibration and in time you will see things around you shift, they can't not. If your vibration changes, what is around you will (almost seemingly magically) shift

Everything You Experience is for You to Have What you Want

EVERYTHING SERVES YOU
Everything on this physical platform is for you to have what you want.  You may think the challenges and 'hardship' you experience...'Oh why does it happen to me?'...you may think you were the unfortunate one for whom it just doesn't work out, the one that has to 'make do'...  

Realise that everything you get and everything you don't get serves as a vibrational platform.  It is like you are standing on the shoulders of a giant from your new perspective; from the thing that worked out, or the thing that didn't work out.

YOU CAN NEVER LOOK BACK
You always see things from new eyes.  Whether it be going back to a country, a relationship, a company that you worked for, or anything else.  Each time you EXPERIENCE something your vibration grows - whatever the outcome. You can never go back.  You will always see it with new eyes.  You are always 'more'.  And that's what you came here to be.  And your physical is (/will be) a match to your vibration

USE YOUR EMOTIONS AS GUIDANCE
Know that each time you don't get what you want there is a building desire for what you DO want, and the discomfort that you feel is an indication that you are not lined up to it in your thoughts and feelings.  The stronger the disparity the stronger the 'negative' emotion.  But if you are to use your emotions as guidance, as guidance that you are getting closer to what you want or further away from it, based on how you feel, you can then work on getting yourself to a better feeling place and thus more in alignment with what you want and thus the manifestation of it.

SOFTENING DISCOMFORT
So as an example something has gone wrong, or something has happened how you don't want it to be - and you feel terrible.  When feeling something as strong as that usually the first step is to soften it.

So you might say:
-This is so bad, why oh why is this happening (pacing the experience)
-I realise that it's not quite how I wanted things to be, and this realisation is my first step (a bit better)
-I realise inherent in everything - good or bad - is the desire and the energy to HAVE WHAT I WANT (feeling better)
-It's not the end, I know there is much more to come, and as soon as I get off feeling bad about this I can line up to what I do want
-What is it that I DO want?  How would it feel when I have it?  
-What are the details of what I want?  (get into more and more specifics, do scripting - script out how things would be, role play, practice using your imagination)
And you are on your way to a better feeling place...

WHAT IS YOUR ATTENTION ON?
Oftentimes when certain things happen, whilst we have our attention on what we don't like rather than what we do, we are attracting more of what our attention is focused on.  So even though things around you (on the physical) may be appearing a certain way, how do you want things to be?  Can you imagine it?  Can you FEEL IT? How deep can you get into that reality?  

And of course as you do that and your vibration adapts to it, it gets easier to think the next better feeling thought and so on.

It can sometimes take the physical a little while to adapt to your vibration (as quickly as you 'allow' it through your good feelings), so keep your vibration on how you want things to be, REGARDLESS OF WHAT IS HAPPENING AROUND YOU. Do you want to create more of 'what already is' (by your focus on it) or what you want?  What vibrational signal are you offering RIGHT NOW IN YOUR LIFE?

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