MANIFESTING & LAW OF ATTRACTION

As Your Attention Grows on What You DO Want, It Lessens on What You Don't

"One of the problems I have had in trying to manifest my goals is ...focus. It just dawned on me today as I was giving a cello lesson! The mistakes I make when I play are often a matter of becoming distracted...losing my focus. Here I am teaching a student to really focus on her playing and I suddenly realized that that was what was getting in my way with manifesting my life!!
That is the big downfall for me....how can I improve my inner focus? It seems very difficult to maintain focus day after day......"
Alison

Hi Alison,

There are two ways to increase focus:
1 - Lessen distractions (sometimes can be known as 'resistance', i.e. that other than what you want)
2 - Focus more on that which you want (practice/build the vibration of what you want)

There are various ways to increase focus, one way is to focus on something, for example you could focus on a goal or something that feels nice (or even an object) and practice keeping your attention on it for longer and longer periods. So initially you could start with 30 seconds and build it to a minute and 5mins and 10mins and so on

The idea is to focus on it as purely as you can, without focusing on other things. If you happen to find other things come up then as soon as you remember you get your focus back on to that which you want to focus on and you continue the sustained concentrated focus

That's one way for now, there are a lot of other ways to increase focus as covered in other articles here or on the teleclasses as well as to decrease distracting and resistant thoughts.

AS YOUR ATTENTION GROWS ON WHAT YOU DO WANT IT LESSENS ON WHAT YOU DON'T

The other thing also is that as you increase your focus on that which you want, your attention will go away from the things that you don't want.  As your attention grows on that which you want, by virtue of Law of Attraction it will attract more thoughts of the same as it will grow and grow and grow.  When you focus on thoughts such as "I don't want to think (or do) this"  you are still giving more of your attention to that which you don't want, instead put your attention on what you DO WANT

Basically, as you practice focusing on more of what you do want and can create games around it and have fun, your focus will naturally increase.  Have you noticed how when you have fun focus tends to be any easier thing?  ;)

So if you are trying to attract something such as a relationship or money for example, you could create a game where you have to think of as many positive fun things about it, you could set a target of thinking of 10 things and write them down, say three times a day.  As you are writing positive things about something your vibration around it is getting purer and purer (and it should feel fun too, not 'forced', keep it light and fun), you are getting into alignment with it, also your focus on it is increasing more and more.

Anyone else want to share their thoughts and/or questions?  Feel free to add them in the comments below

How Do I Know What I Want?

Mohamed: (Paraphrased) I think that the most important point is to know what you really want, It's really difficult, for me at least, to know what I do want...

REPLY:
Look at it like a lump of clay you are going to mould, and your questioning about what you want will enable you to get clarity in closer sculpting/creating what you want

So you ask what you don't want to get what you DO want

If you're finding that you don't have clarity on what you don't want or what you do want, i.e. nothing is coming up, ask yourself what's important about the decision? i.e. if you don't have a preference of what you do or don't want, then why is it mattering? i.e. what are your preferences ABOUT the decision itself? And they will give you criteria and wants and don't wants to work with

So you might say, 'I'd really like to decide what job to get, but I can't think of what I like or don't like' Ok, so why are you thinking about it, why is it even a consideration, why is this even coming up for you?

'Because I've got to get a job, money, furthering myself etc' Ok, money, furthering yourself. What does furthering yourself mean? What does money mean to you? And as you get clarity, also work then on getting onto the feelings of those things

So say you've gotten clarity and you're saying 'I want $x income a month and I'd like to have my own business within a year', so ask yourself: How does that FEEL? What are the essences to it?

So you could say 'Well I'd feel so secure and safe and actually a little rich with a consistent income, I'd feel stable, in fact maybe even excited about the way things were going. I'd certainly appreciate things a lot. And about having my own business, wow, I'd be excited, that'd be so thrilling', so you have some FEELINGS and essences, these are what will bring the universe to orchestrate things with you, it responds to your vibration, and your emotions are an indicator of that
Keep yourself around those feelings (and not on the lack of them) and things around will you will move and you will notice them and that will perpetuate more good things happening and so on.

Have fun  :)

Hi Hemal
Thanks for your response.
I have to make a step in this road, I have to decide what I do want to be, because I feel so scared when I think that I may keep thinking without taking an action until it's too late.

So ask yourself what are you 'scared' of? i.e. you are fearful of something you don't want, use that to define what you want. You could make a list of what would happen if you didn't do this or that or what could go wrong or what's wrong with the various options, then use that to define what you DO want, and that's where the power will be

If right now you feel comfortable taking some action then feel free to do so. There is nothing wrong with taking action. The preference is to line up vibrationally (with emotions) but it is also about lining up with your beliefs, so if currently you'd feel better in taking some action then feel free to do so. Ask yourself what would feel better right now, whatever that is

Absolutely you want to make a step in the road, what I mentioned above was a way of getting clarity on the journey ahead of you. So you could take other action steps, or you could take clarification steps (and when you have clarity you will feel inspired and the actions will come very naturally anyway), either way you will experience things which will give you more clarity on what you do want and what you don't want and you will be getting closer to what you want.

And if you are in a place of fear, just work on feeling slightly better, whatever that is. You have reached out and asked for guidance/opinions, give yourself credit, you have taken actions and done some things about it. Even if you hadn't received answers, give yourself credit nevertheless. And work on gently feeling better. You don't have to wait for the reality to change for you to feel better, there are things you can feel better about right now, which will change your reality anyway. But focus on your feelings about it, and if for you that involves actions then so be it, it's really about what works for you.

As an after-note to this interaction, Mohamed kindly wrote to me to thank me for it and posted it on his blog at Route 1900 for March 24 2008